Nolabeings

“Tell me about the girl…”

“Her name’s Destiny. My destiny, she’s Destiny, I don’t know. It’s pretty cliche but I’m going to go with it. She’s real cool. I follow the wind, and the wind blows to the west this time of year. I think.”

“We grew up together. We’re like cousins, brothers. We played basketball… catch girls, kiss a little bit! Ha! It’s like a game when you’re young. All the boys catch the girls and whoever you find, that’s your girlfriend.”
“One time when we were 5, 6 years old, he bit me right here on the side. Chewed me up!”
“Why’d you bite him?!”
“He took my frozen cup!”

“I’ve always been a romantic, just because I saw my parents have a good, strong lasting relationship and so I assumed that the first person you meet and fall in love with would be the one right person for you. And I’ve gone through a couple relationships where I’ve just laid everything out to make something work that just wasn’t really working. I was with one girlfriend for four years, two of which we were in and out of the relationship. [The last year of it] we got into an open relationship because while she didn’t want to be exclusive with me and had found that she was bisexual, she still had strong feelings for me. […] That was just the most stressful fucking year, because the whole time I was just trying to convince myself that I wasn’t a jealous wreck. It was a constant renegotiating process. She was always very upfront about what she needed and wanted, but I just wasn’t hearing her. I kept wanting her to come to my terms. And it just never happened. We spent a month living together in this one room I had in a friend’s apartment. It was probably one of the best short periods of our relationship – just domestic, getting along really well and having a lot of fun. And then she went to Burning Man. And while she was gone I spent two weeks reflecting on all of our time in an open relationship […] and it made me realize – ‘I don’t want to be in an open relationship, I just want to be in a relationship with her.’ And she came back from Burning Man and – literally – the first thing she told me after ‘Hello, it’s good to see you’ was ‘I met somebody at Burning Man and I really love him. I still want to be with you and I just wanted to let you know.’ And that was the day we broke up. It was the last day of summer in 2012. We didn’t talk – we weren’t even in the same city – for the next three years. That’s the reason I moved from Seattle in some way. I needed a fresh start. I had been investing so much energy into this relationship and it had been at the expense of me even thinking about what I wanted to do with my life.”

“It’s an awkward thing… I’m going to be a nurse. Then after the nurse I’m going to be a teacher. I want to be a teacher because I get to teach children how to do their homework and stuff and I can help them out.”